Yesterday went as expected. Jessica came into the meeting saying everything and anything that the FPT and myself wanted to hear. But, I wasn't buying it. Some of the things she had said I honestly had to hold my laugh back because they were so out there.. I just don't understand how someone can be so convincing to others. All in all it went as good as I predicted it to go.
Now for the GAL Cindy Ensign I am very disappointed with her. She is the kids lawyer. After our meeting she wanted to meet with the FPT to talk about some questions she did have. Well finding out later that evening from the FPT she had mentioned that "Myself and Jeff were having an affair with each other" and that "Jeff is biased against women" all this coming from Jessica obviously. Just makes my emotions sky rocket to know that the person that is the kids lawyer would be so one sided. Thankfully this case will hopefully be closed next wed and she will not be moving on with us to custody court. Just hope Jessica doesn't manipulate anymore people.
Thursday, August 9, 2012
Wednesday, August 8, 2012
Today
Well today is the day, to say the least I am pretty nervous about it. I don't know why I would be but I am. I hate confrontation and I don't know how I am going to handle some of the things that Jessica is going to say. I know I will be strong I mean for heavens sake we sat through court listened to her on the stand saying that we abuse the kids, if I didn't ring her neck then, I am pretty sure I will be able to be strong today. It is going to be hard sitting in a room with just her and the therapist for an hour but I think it will be even harder sitting in a room with, the kids therapist (note: the one Jessica takes them to, who only knows one side), The DCFS case worker (note: that has been friends with Jessica this whole case), The GAL (note: who also only knows one side and would like to see the kids taken away from us) and the family preservation therapist that has been working with all of us that feels that the kids are safe with us. Hopefully this all goes well.
Yesterday evening we had the FPT come over to our house just like every Tuesday night for the past two months to interact with us and the kids. Well he decided he wanted to speak the truth and let us know how getting full custody of the kids is probably not going to work out in our favor. He said that if we did go for full custody then we are going to go through a tough and a hard time (like these past two years haven't been)? That the only way we could get full custody is if we were able to prove that Jessica has harmed the children which with how she is and all of her cover ups it probably wont happen. (Don't you think that this whole abuse case, trial, lies, mental abuse done to the children on her behalf would be enough)? He tells us you would have to prove it. Just makes me sick to think that all this time we have had the kids taken away from us, all the pain, heartache and stress and we have done nothing wrong and she will probably end up with the kids. I don't what to take the kids out of her life she is their mother but I do want to get them out of the situation that they are in. If we don't get full custody all we want is for her to move out of her parents condo. Her mother has a huge negative impact on everything that has been going on. She is crazy, and very rude to her grandchildren and even Jessica. I don't know why Jessica would even want to be living there still when her mother is so rude to her and her kids.
On a high note: Jeff and I are getting out tomorrow night and going to the Kix Brooks concert. It will be nice to just get out.
Yesterday evening we had the FPT come over to our house just like every Tuesday night for the past two months to interact with us and the kids. Well he decided he wanted to speak the truth and let us know how getting full custody of the kids is probably not going to work out in our favor. He said that if we did go for full custody then we are going to go through a tough and a hard time (like these past two years haven't been)? That the only way we could get full custody is if we were able to prove that Jessica has harmed the children which with how she is and all of her cover ups it probably wont happen. (Don't you think that this whole abuse case, trial, lies, mental abuse done to the children on her behalf would be enough)? He tells us you would have to prove it. Just makes me sick to think that all this time we have had the kids taken away from us, all the pain, heartache and stress and we have done nothing wrong and she will probably end up with the kids. I don't what to take the kids out of her life she is their mother but I do want to get them out of the situation that they are in. If we don't get full custody all we want is for her to move out of her parents condo. Her mother has a huge negative impact on everything that has been going on. She is crazy, and very rude to her grandchildren and even Jessica. I don't know why Jessica would even want to be living there still when her mother is so rude to her and her kids.
On a high note: Jeff and I are getting out tomorrow night and going to the Kix Brooks concert. It will be nice to just get out.
Monday, August 6, 2012
These next two weeks....
Update....
Well after almost two years of trying to get Jessica (the ex) to meet up with me, get to know me, understand who I am and that I didn't come into a relationship trying to take her kids away from her. .. After Jessica not wanting to meet me, saying that I have no right to be apart of her kids life, that I shouldn't be apart of parent teacher conferences and the list goes on.. I FINALLY get to sit down with her this Wednesday with our therapist from the state and talk with her. We shall see how it all goes.. then after that we have a team meeting with CPS, The kids lawyer (who hates us cause of the image that has been painted to her), the kids counsel (another state worker) and Jessica, I can NOT wait until Wed is over lol. Then we will finally be back in court on Aug 15th to hopefully close this bs case where we were blamed for abusing my sweet step-children and having all these allegations dropped. It will be so nice to be able to move on to the next step .. custody. There has been so much heart ache, drama, stress these past two years it will be nice to have the state, CPS and everyone that Jessica has made us look like these horrible people to out of our life's!!!
That being said we have been trying to grow our family for almost a year now and no luck yet =0( I am sure it has to do with all the stress and adding the stress from month to month. In September I will be able to start fertility testing so hopefully they will find something so we can grow our family. Keep your fingers crossed and our little family in your prayers.
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| First time camping in the backyard!! |
Well after almost two years of trying to get Jessica (the ex) to meet up with me, get to know me, understand who I am and that I didn't come into a relationship trying to take her kids away from her. .. After Jessica not wanting to meet me, saying that I have no right to be apart of her kids life, that I shouldn't be apart of parent teacher conferences and the list goes on.. I FINALLY get to sit down with her this Wednesday with our therapist from the state and talk with her. We shall see how it all goes.. then after that we have a team meeting with CPS, The kids lawyer (who hates us cause of the image that has been painted to her), the kids counsel (another state worker) and Jessica, I can NOT wait until Wed is over lol. Then we will finally be back in court on Aug 15th to hopefully close this bs case where we were blamed for abusing my sweet step-children and having all these allegations dropped. It will be so nice to be able to move on to the next step .. custody. There has been so much heart ache, drama, stress these past two years it will be nice to have the state, CPS and everyone that Jessica has made us look like these horrible people to out of our life's!!!
That being said we have been trying to grow our family for almost a year now and no luck yet =0( I am sure it has to do with all the stress and adding the stress from month to month. In September I will be able to start fertility testing so hopefully they will find something so we can grow our family. Keep your fingers crossed and our little family in your prayers.
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