Well I havent talked to much about this cause it is something that has been hard on all of us. But, I have decided it was time to keep some type of journal some way to let my frustrations out. I believe it all started April of 2010 its so hard to keep track now days. Jeff's ex-wife Jessica found out that Jeff and I were dating. She was not happy about it so she decided to keep the kids away from Jeff anyway she could. She wanted control. Once this happened Jeff contacted our lawyer Mark Wiser which we are already in the hole 20 grand with him.. yeah that could have been a new car or a down payment on a nice house. Jeff decided to file for 50/50 custody. About a week after we filed we recieved a call from the state indicating that they have been contacted by Jessica informing them that we have been abusive to the kids. This went on and on.. I believe to this day there are five abuse aligations that she has made up and had the kids lie for her. It is a feeling that I never wish upon anyone when you recieve a call and it is the state saying that your Oldest and middle child has told them that you hit them, locked them in the garage, hogged tied them and did much much more to them. We could not believe what we were hearing. It took every ounce of strength not to go over to Jessica's house well her parents condo where the all currently live and beat the day lights out of her for making her children do that. It wasnt the last time they would do this though. Every time they lied they were rewarded some how, how are you supposed to punish a kid that lies about something like that but its also being made to do it by their grandparents that they are afraid of and their mother. When you are that age you will do anything to have that attention and love from your mother.
It was the day of our wedding and it was so much fun. The kids got to be apart of it and we were a happy little family finaly! Well the next week when we went to go and pick up the kids Jessica was there with a cop and no kids to be seen. The cop then handed Jeff a restraining order indicating that at our wedding we had tied Owen down to a chair cause he was not listening and ripped the skin off his finger with pliars, and that is just the begining of what was in the documents. We were not able to see the kids until we could get in front of a judge and get this dropped. A month later we finaly got into see the judge.. the judge dropped the restraining order and Jessica and the state decided to push for the court to be moved to the Juvinal court. We finaly got to see the kids again after a month. We were all excited and things were back to being good having them around.
Court was scheduled at the juvinal court in West Jordan. The first day of court our family and friends attened to destify in our behalf. Wyatt was put on stand and he did so good he didnt lie, he told the truth we were so proud of him. The judge didnt believe the abuse aligations but sense it was the state that wanted to go to court they got to choose if the court should proceed in the findings. That being said a 7 day trial was scheduled for December 2011. Seven of the worst days of my life. Sitting in a court room watching over and over again Jessica, her dad, wyatt and owen get up on the stand and lie. Lie about everything. We had about 15 people that we thank from the bottom of our hearts that came to the trial and testifyed on our behalf. The judge needed time to go through all of her documents from the trial to come up with her decision. It was our year to have the kids for christmas but because the boys had lied we only got to see them for four hours on christmas.
We fianly heard back from the judge on her findings and her decision in Feburary of 2011. Yeah the wonderful legal system likes to drag everything out. She came to the conclusion that all the aligations made towards Jeff were not plausable and that she didnt believe them. Jeff was to go to therapy and we were to have family therapy with the kids. Then we would have our three month evaulation back in the court room. Jeff completed his thearpy but we were not able to start family thearpy cause the insurance being used for the kids personal thearpy that Jessica takes them to is the insurance Jeff provides them so we were unable to use our insurance for family thearpy. We couldnt afford $200 per hour two times a week to meet with a thearpist.
We then had our court eveluation and the judge was not happy about thearpy not starting and the lack of communicaton between Jeff and Jessica. There for the judge required for us to have family preservation by one of the state workers that she is to choose. We started the famly preservation (when a thearpist comes to our home when we have the kids) we have been doing it for about four weeks now and it has been going pretty good. Jessica is still not communicating with us. For example Owen broke his arm in june and she would not tell us what hospital they were at so we could come and see him. We asked her to inform us when his doctor appointments were and she failed to do that. She told the state that his cast got wet over at our house so she had to rush him into the hospital to get his cast off and his pins out.. (that was a lie) We had them over the 24th of July and when we went and picked the kids up she told us we had to have them back to her by 7am on the 25th cause the boys were to start school that day. As far as we knew the boys werent supposed to start until August 20th. She had gone and switched track schedules and did not inform us on her decision.
We have court on Aug. 15th to see how everything has been going and to close this case. Once this case is closed we can finaly go the district court and proceed on Full custody of the childern. We were going for 50/50 but after the two years of lies, not communicating and everything else that Jessica has put us through we will be going for full custody. Please keep us in your prayers that things will start going our way for once and that these poor kids can live a happy life cause right now they cant. So that was just a little bit there is so much more to what has gone on by I dont want to try and explod my brain remembering everything cause it is sooo stressful. We are supposed to get along with Jessica, how are we supposed to do that with someone that has tried to ruin our life and is still trying to this day. I do have to say our legal system is screwed up and I feel bad for everyone out there that has been convicted of something that they did not do.
I will post more updated once I have more...
